How to Approach Girls – First Contact
Hey guys! So yeah I know Valentines Day is over for another year, but I’ve been getting so many emails from guys who basically bombed out that I thought I’d throw this post in.
Valentines Day is the day for the chocolates and the flowers and when couples snuggle romantically next to each other, and when love in all its wondrous grandeur is placed on a pedestal for all to worship. It doesn’t matter whether you’ve broken up with (or got dumped by) your girlfriend and the wounds still sting.
It doesn’t matter whether you’re a newcomer seeking to enter this messy affair called love. It doesn’t matter whether you’re seeking to build up a collection of lovely ladies to add to your cap feathers. It also doesn’t matter whether you claim that you’re going to live an ascetic life; free from worldly attachment.
Valentines Day was a pretty cruel blow for a lot of you singles out there!
Whether you’re looking for a perfectly harmonious and monogamous relationship or a quick one-night stand, you’re still going to have to gain the interest of the girl if you want to rid yourself of your singleness. Thus, it’s definitely going to be to your advantage if you know how to approach girls.
• Awareness
You have to know what you want before you even think about how to approach girls. Set the standards that you want to strive for. Your thoughts, actions and words will all be influenced by what you really want from the girl you’re going to talk to. It’ll also affect your confidence with women and how you’ll interact with them.
• Measurements
No, this isn’t about measuring her three sizes. It’s measuring the girl to your standards that you set to help you on how to approach girls. It’s best that you go about this my asking yourself a barrage of questions before you dive into the line of fire. Is she reserved or easy? Is she alone or with company? Is she looking or is she taken? Make up a list of questions to size up a girl, and you’ll get a better idea of how to pickup women.
• Approach
The first move, your approach, will usually make or break your game. Go in too aggressively, and she’ll be put off by your blazing bravado. Go in too weakly, and you won’t light the spark that leads to the flames of desire in her breast. Judge your approach based on the measurements you’ve made. Your confidence with women will also shine here, so brace yourself before diving in.
• Conversation
When it boils down on how to approach girls, this is the bread and butter of the dating game. It’ll directly affect your ability to hold and maintain their interest in you once you approach them right. This isn’t a debate: you definitely won’t know how to pickup a girl if you don’t know how make her open up and keep the flow of discussion smooth and natural. The general rule of thumb here is to slowly and subtly make her talk about things while you actively listen to her. Relax; be cheerful as much as possible and serious when you have to be. Once you pass her grade with your conversation skills, the chances are high that you’ll be able to set another date. You can get the ball rolling from there.
Of course, this is all a broad discussion of topics for general information on how to approach girls. Search up for a couple of good sources of information that will discuss these topics further. There are more specific guidebooks out there if you don’t want to look like a complete idiot by asking around ‘how to pickup women.’
After all, love is an experiment. Arm yourself with as much information as possible before diving in, and you’ll have a higher chance of getting the outcome you desire! So get ready for the next 14 February and don’t bomb!
