How to Approach Girls: Sizing Them Up
Pickups are a messy process if you don’t know how to choose your targets. You could spend the entire night sucking in bomb after bomb if you just randomly attempt a pickup on the nearest hot girl you set your sights on. On the contrast, waiting and selecting potential pickup targets will drastically improve your chances of actually scoring a successful pickup and walk away with their number. One way of sharpening your knowledge on how to approach girls is to know how to evaluate which ones are ripe for a pass:
Listen in the conversation
Learning how to approach girls involves gathering as much information as you can before deciding to go in for the pickup. If you can manage to tune your hearing to the discussion, try to pick up words and phrases from nearby girls who are chatting it up. You’ll get a clue about how they think and how they feel at the time. Once you do that, you’re going to be one step closer to gaining the necessary information you need to make a successful pass. Of course, do this as discreetly as possible. No one likes a busybody, and if you’re caught listening in on the conversations, don’t expect to gain a favorable response.
Looking around
It’s all in the eyes, for both you and a prospective pickup. You’ll need your eyes to scan the party for potential ‘marks,’ while available girls have a certain look that you’ll definitely need to look out for. That certain special look of potential marks varies with culture, but generally suggests a playful and curious mood. They’re scanning the environment for good-looking men who can give them a good time. Just be careful not to confuse looks of boredom, passiveness and other negative signals with playfulness and curiosity.
Locked eyes
If in the process of scanning and your eyes meet with a girl, hold your ground and avoid the urge to look away. Match that lock of the eyes with a smile or a raised glass. Her reaction will give it all away: if she turns away hurriedly and with a look of disgust, don’t even think of picking her up. But if she matches your gaze with a smile or coyly turns away with a feminine twist, she’s giving you a signal.
Check the mood
Speaking of mood, you’ll never learn how to approach girls if you can’t read mood! Some girls simply want to unwind in their favorite bar, or they want to have a good time with their buddies. They simply want to be left alone, and you’re going to bomb pretty hard if you attempt to pick up girls who have this kind of mood around them.
Interpreting signals
One final note: you may have noticed that a lot of all these pointers for evaluation rely heavily on reading signals. The interpretation these signals are crucial to your success, and they vary from culture to culture. Heck, what may look like an open invitation for a pickup in one US state may mean “leave me alone” in another state. Be aware of your cultural norms when it comes to pickups, and you’ll be able to read the signals like a pro.
Now that you have an idea on how to read the signals, you’ll learn how to approach girls with a little bit more preparation than before. And the more prepared and informed you are, the higher your chances of scoring a successful pass. And here’s a hidden bonus: the more experienced you are with reading signals, the better your confidence with women is. That’ll give you the extra ‘oomph’ to impress the ladies.
So go out there and dazzle the ladies with your slick moves that’ll leave them breathlessly charmed.
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