Dating Clues For Guys

So, you’re out with her and you bump into someone she knows and she introduces you as “this is xxx, he’s just a friend!”  Word up, you’re officially stuck in the dreaded friend zone!  And so are a ton of guys and they’re all looking for a way out!

Getting stuck being best friends with a girl you actually want to date can often be a permanent state.  Once she sees you as one of her best friends it can be a ton of work to get the hell out of there and have her see you as a guy she wants to date.  Here are some tips that might get her to see you as boyfriend material.

Tell Her You Like Her 

If you’ve not told her how you feel, then just how do you expect her to know you like her.  It’s time to step up and be a man and tell her that you like her and you want to date her.  If she says no, then at least you’ll know!

Availability

Are you always there for her?  Doing for her?  If you’ve positioned yourself in her life as someone she can call on to help her out when she’s in a tough spot, then you need to make yourself unavailable to her.  Next time she calls tell her you’re busy.

Don’t Listen to Her Stuff

Don’t wind up being the emotional dump where she routinely dumps all her emotional stuff.  If she’s talking to you about her problems in an asexual way, then she sees you as a friend and no threat to her.  By threat I mean she thinks of you as one of her girlfriends and not a guy she needs to be guarded with, because you’re never going to hit on her!  Basically she’s put in a dress!

Again, tell her straight up that you’re not interested in being one of her girlfriends, you want to be her boyfriend.  Hell be rude to her if you have to, just get the hell out of that dress, it doesn’t suit you!

Her Social Circle

Women/girls rely heavily on their family and friends and because of that they seek their approval.  So she’s always gonna want to introduce the guy she’s dating to her social circle and she wants to do that proudly.  If you’re the kind of guy who is not someone who stands up and makes himself heard and seen, then she’s probably not going to be introducing you to her family and friends any time soon.

Get out and fill your space and make her see you as a guy that people notice and who has the confidence and presence to be more than just her friend.

As I said, once she sees you as a best friend and not a boyfriend, it can be a ton of work just to get out of that fix.  But ask yourself this question, “how much do you like her?” 

How to Pickup Women: The One Night Stand

Stuff like commitment and relationships aren’t exactly high on your priority list, yet you still want to feel the warmth of a woman beside you. You may desire company and intimacy without the emotional strings attached to a messy boyfriend-girlfriend routine. You may just want to have her for the night and move on in the morning. For whatever reasons you may have, learning how to pickup women for a one night stand is a unique skill.

How to Pickup Women – The Basics

No emotional attachment – if you want to learn how to pickup women for a one night stand, you’ve got to make sure you don’t get attached to your partner. You’ll be in a world of hurt if you fall in love with someone you met for a one night stand. 

Its consensual – of course, the reverse can happen: you’re going to be in major trouble if your partner develops ties with you. So make sure your partner clearly understands that the night is for one night only.

The Places

Bars – the classic pickup spot. These places were designed for people to mingle and socialize with each other over a couple of drinks, so expect to find a lot of potential targets in bars. Just make sure to check the bar you’re in: you don’t want to pickup a girl in a biker’s bar.

Social Events – parties, company dinners and other similar social events are excellent places for you to pickup girls. Unlike bars, though, you’ll have to be extra careful with your target in social events like parties. Be especially careful of hidden wedding rings and other symbols of attachment. 

The Girls

Eyeballing – this is how to pickup women in a bar or a crowded spot: scan the area with your eyes. No, not with the menacing eyes of a hungry wolf, but with curious eyes that playfully flits around the room. Look at women you’re interested in, and let them know you’re looking. If they avoid your gaze, skip to other men. If they match your gaze, mark her as a potential target.

Gestures – if a girl matches your gaze, or you match a girls’ gaze, take a couple of minutes to observe her gestures. You’ll notice a little ‘electricity’ that’ll buzz a girl who’s interested in you: posture, coyness, and a few alluring smiles are three of the more obvious signs you’ve got chemistry.

The Approach

Atmosphere – you don’t want to come in strong in a quiet bar. Check the atmosphere: a strong approach works for high-energy atmospheres, like discos and parties, while a subdued approach works for low-key atmospheres, like bars and social dinners. 

The Girl – of course, you’ll have to check your approach with your prospective target. Use your confidence with women to gauge whether the girl gets turned on by a strong approach or gets intrigued by a subdued approach. 

The Punch line – popping the question requires precise timing. Don’t forget these three rules: get her interested, get her motivated, and then get her aroused before asking her over to your place. With skill and luck, you won’t even need to pop the question: do it well enough, and she’ll take the initiative and ask you to her place. 

And one last thing: don’t get her drunk and then drag her to your place. No matter how willing she is while drunk as a skunk, knocking her up while she’s intoxicated still counts as rape. So be very, very careful with the drinks.

Now you know the four key concepts you’ve got to master if you want to learn how to pickup women for a one night stand.

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