As far fetched as it may seem, there really are men out there who can successfully pull off the James Bond appeal. Though we’ll never know if they pack the gadgets and the guts that the various Bond-men have, here are the two things that give these Bond-esque men their charm:

It’s An Animal Thing

Nature is unfair. Some men are just born with the physical features to make the ladies swoon: Perfect faces, sculpted bodies and a winning smile are just the tips of the icebergs that naturally-endowed men have to their advantage. Heck, some men are even gifted with the scent to turn women on!

However, all these factors are for naught if you don’t know how to use them. Even the hottest, most perfect man on the planet would have the appeal of a bug if he doesn’t know how to use his charms well enough. And besides, James Bond isn’t really supposed to be a knockout stud. He’s just a regular Joe who knows how to swoon the ladies. But he may have the advantage slightly higher pheromone levels than your average guy. Who really knows?

It’s a social thing

Again, it doesn’t matter how hot you are if you’ve got hair sprouting all over the place, you gobble like an animal, and you spit and cuss like no tomorrow. You don’t see any of the Bonds doing any of these things, now do you?

If you have confidence with women and know how to approach the ladies, talk to them and charm them, you have a greater edge than an unrefined boob who doesn’t know his left from his right when it comes to treating a woman right. If you know the art of communication, even a modest face and a less-than-perfect body build won’t be able to stop your ability to persuade the ladies to give you their number.

Animal vs. Social

If you’re lucky enough to be endowed with both good lucks and unstoppable charm, then you probably don’t even need advice when it comes to women. Heck, you may even be a candidate for the next batch of Bond films to pop up!

But if you really want to experience the Bond appeal, you’ve got to work on your social skills. Learning how to approach girls, building confidence with women and knowing how to stir up are the basics in interacting with the fairer sex. And if you’re skilled enough, you won’t need animal instincts to pull the ladies to you. Remember that a magnetic personality trumps good looks anytime. Just look at the latest reincarnation of Bond, and you’ll know why.

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You can put it down to anxiety and fear!  But if you relax, the anxiety will go away and you will find it will be easier to speak.  One thing to be sure not to do is to ask a lot of questions when you’re talking to women. Anxiety can sometimes cause you to do that, but you really must try and avoid that.

Also try to avoid awkward silences. Before you step up to talk to a woman, you should always set a realistic goal for yourself. Ask yourself what you want to achieve.  Do you want to get her number, just talk to her to see if she’s a nice woman or do you want a one night stand.  Whatever it is you want, be clear in your mind.

Talking to women doesn’t have to be something to dread or you should avoid. On dates, the club, grocery stores, or even at work, you too can talk to women.

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Truth is it doesn’t matter what you look like, what you drive, the job you do and all the rest of the rubbish reasons that guys like you think they can’t get a head start with girls.  It’s to do with you and how you see yourself and what you feel about yourself.  Yep, that’s right!  It’s all about you!

Now be honest and check out this list and tick off how many of these apply to you!

1. You take way too long approaching a girl and by the time you’ve psyched yourself up she’s either on her way out the door, some other guy has stepped in or you just stand there for too long and allow negative thoughts to creep into your mind.
2. If you do approach a girl, you approach her all wrong in terms of your body language.  You have your head down, your shoulders rounded.  Or you come up behind her and almost frighten her to death and worse still when you’re at her side, she can’t hear a word you’re saying because your voice is too low.  You need to stand up straight, own the space you’re in and approach her full on and facing her.
3. Don’t go out to impress her!  Tell me, just how do you impress someone you don’t know?  Your goal when you first approach a woman is to make sure that whatever you say you mean and that it doesn’t really matter whether she agrees with you or not.  Does this mean you should be aggressive or rude, hell no!  It means remember who you are and be confident and unshakable in that.
4. It’s tough to approach a girl who’s in a group with her female friends.  That’s just fact and sometimes it doesn’t matter what you do or how you do it, it just isn’t going to work.  Does that mean you don’t try?  NO!  But you should be aware that you might come up against the “cockblocker” or the friend who will ward you off like you’re Dracular no matter how the girl you like feels.  Just be aware of this.
5. Pretty much don’t beat yourself up if you strike out.  You cannot expect to hit a home run every time you step up.  Just be polite, withdraw and move onto the next object of your desires – always taking with you what you’ve learnt.

So how many did you tick off the list?  If even one of the above is true of you, then you might want to consider improving your technique.  Put simply, if you’re ready to improve your dating successes then understanding how to approach girls is crucial.  Just don’t over think it and wind up taking no action!

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